Equilibro, esa es la clave entre ambas posturas. No dejarse desbordar ni por uno, ni por otro razonamiento. Mantener la armonia ante las situaciones que puedan crear un conflicto entre ambos pensamientos. A mi juicio, cuando muchas veces se pregunta a una pareja o matrimonio...¿porque estais juntos?, siempre se suele contestar..."porque estamos enamorados", la respuesta es incorrecta, pero a la vez correcta, voy a tratar de explicar esta paradoja en mi forma de ver.
1. Obviamente para estar con alguien, hay que estar enamorado....¿como se nota?, por la quimica que desprende nuestro cerebro, lo cual luego luego lo podemos adornar de la forma mas bella y poetica que deseemos, pero lo cierto es que el amor es quimica, que responde a una serie de necesidades que todos tenemos en un momento de la vida. La esencial, es la de amar y ser amados. Porque cuando esa quimica surge entre dos personas, y se cae en la fase de enamoramiento, el siguiente paso que pasa a sentir el individuo, es la de la entrega al ser amado, el olvidarse de sus necesidades o deseos para cubrir los del amado, y el amado para cubrir los de la amada, no hay interes, no hay codicia....es el resultado de la quimica, algo simplemente maravilloso, que anula a veces nuestros sentidos embriagandolos de una esencia que nos hace sentirnos felices, porque queramos o no......quien esta enamorado, las riquezas u otros valores del mundo, pasan a segundo plano. Esta bien como experiencia, pero no suficiente para decir : "quiero unir mi vida a la de esta persona para siempre".
2. El amor, no tiene precio, no tiene condiciones, quien dice sentirlo y trata de imponer una serie de condiciones a la otra persona, no es amor, es una atraccion interesada....te amo si me das esto, aquello, te amo si me proporcionas esto que deseo, o aquello que anhelo....es falso amor. Hay que huir de el, pues es un amor totalmente condicionado. Pero ahora bajemos al lado practico de la vida, ya hemos estado soñando y ahora toca despertar. ¿"..la persona con la que quiero compartir mi vida"..que podemos hacer juntos?, se pueden hacer muchas cosas sin duda, pero lo unico que puede unir en este paso es un PROYECTO COMUN A LARGO PLAZO.
Esto no es solo pasear, ir al cine, o viajar....es sentar las bases de algo que pertenezca a los dos, y que entre ambos luchen por llevarlo a cabo juntos, para poder disfrutar juntos de ese beneficio comun...si no hay esto...no es amor, no es pareja o matrimonio..es tan solo tener la compañia de un amante, o de una gran y excelente amigo o amiga nada mas.
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3. Por ultimo, la parte mas importante.....el entendimiento emocional con la otra parte, y esto quiere decir simplemente, que cuando yo hablo con la otra persona, se que me va a entender, y me voy a sentir tranquilo o tranquila exponiendo mis sentimientos del momento, o mis emociones actuales, sin temor a ser reprochado o castigado, con la garantia, del debate de ello y la comunicacion fluida entre las dos personas. Porque sencillamente hay el factor universal basico en toda relacion...CONFIANZA.
Pienso que con la persona que surje esto esa es la mujer o el hombre de tu vida. No surje con todos o todas, con muchas surgiran una parte o dos, o ninguna....pero a mi modo de ver, estas tres partes son las esenciales para poder empezar a forjar una base solida y construir algo bonito y duradero, porque seamos sinceros.....a todo hombre y mujer les gusta que la pareja elegida y amada, este junto a ellos toda la vida, y que me diga que hombre o mujer no desea hacerse viejo junto a la persona elegida......no hay ninguno
I balance, this is the key between both positions. Not to allow to overflow not for one, not for another reasoning. To maintain the harmony before the situations that could create a conflict between both thoughts. To my judgment, when often one asks a couple or marriage...: because you are together?, it always usually answer... "because we are in love", the answer is incorrect, but simultaneously correct, I am going to try to tell this paradox in my way of seeing.
1. Obviously to be with someone, it is necessary to be in love....: how is it evident?, for the chemistry that detaches our brain, which immediately we can adorn it with the most beautiful and poetical form that we wish, but the true thing is that the love is a chemistry, which he answers to a series of needs that we all have in a moment of the life.
The essential one, is that of loving and being dear. Because when this chemistry arises between two persons, and it falls down in the infatuation phase, the following step that the individual happens to feel, is that of the delivery on having been loved, forgetting its needs or desires to cover those of the dear one, and loved to cover those of the dear one, there is no interest, there is no greed.... it is the result of the chemistry, something simply wonderful, which annuls sometimes our senses intoxicating them of an extract that makes us feel happy, because let's want or not...... who is in love, the wealths or other values of the world, they go on to background. It is well like experience, but not sufficiently to say: "I want to join my life to that of this person forever".
2. The love, it has no price, has no conditions, it is not a love who says to feel it and tries to impose a series of conditions on another person, it is an interested attraction.... I love you if you give me this, that one, love you if you provide to me this that I wish, or for what I long.... is a false love. It is necessary to flee of, since it is a completely conditional love. But now let's go down nearby I practise of the life, we have been already dreaming and now he has to wake up.". the person with whom I want to share my life". that we can do together?, many things can be done undoubtedly, but the only thing that it can join in this step is a LONG-TERM COMMON PROJECT. This is not alone to walk, to go to the movies, or to travel.... is to sit the bases of something that belongs to the two, and that between both fight to carry out it together, to be able to enjoy together this common benefit... if there is no this... it is not a love, it is not equal or a marriage. . it is just to have the company of a lover, or of one big and excellent friend or friend nothing more.
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3. Finally, the most important part..... the emotional understanding with another part, and this means simply, that when I speak with another person, that is going to understand me, and I am going to feel calm or calm exhibiting my feelings of the moment, or my current emotions, without fear of being reproached or punished, with the guarantee, of the debate of it and the communication flown between two persons. Because simply there is the basic universal factor in any relation... CONFIDENCE.
I think that with the person that surje this this is the woman or the man of your life. Not surje with all or all, with many a part or two will arise, or none.... but to my way of seeing, these three parts are the essential ones to be able to begin forging a solid base and construct something nice and lasting, because we are sincere..... to every man and they like woman that the elected and dear couple, this one along with them the whole life, and that says to me that man or woman does not want to become an old man along with the elected person...... is not any
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