Siempre he pensado que la emociones son ese gran desconocido, aunque las definimos, interpretamos y reconocemos, la verdad es que siempre estamos sujetos a ellas, y dominados por ellas, porque el ser humano es en el fondo un ser puramente emocional, tan solo las mentes enfermas e insanas tienen problemas con ello, a raiz de lo cual, las consultas de psicoanalistas de todo el mundo estan llenas de pacientes con problemas emocionales en la mayor parte de los casos.
Personalmente he de decir que a lo largo de mi vida, me he encontrado con muchos casos de personas con problemas emocionales, problemas no asimilados y reconocidos, personas y gente que dice no tener algo que le salta a la vista, y sin embargo, no se dan cuenta la mayoría, que tener una vida emocional sana y limpia, es beneficiosa para la salud y repercute positívamente en la vida social.
Todo va unido, porque una persona que no tiene una vida emocional sana, no tiene tampoco unas relaciones interpersonales ricas. Una cosa lleva a la otra. Personas con miedos, dudas, incertidumbres, que circulan por la vida con una muralla alrededor suya protegiéndose no saben bien de que, quizá seguramente de ellos mismos.
Todo lleva en un equilibrio dentro de la persona, pues a mi entender yo lo dividiria en 3 niveles interiores, los cuales van íntimamente unidos, los cuales serian cultura, emocionalidad y exteriorizacion.
La cultura. Es un importante factor, pues aparte de abrirte nuevas perspectivas y visiones, te ayuda a formarte como persona. Una persona sana, sabe asimilar la cultura en su vida, y asimilar la cultura, es hacerla parte de tu forma de vida, y de tu interes personal, pero no nos confundamos, cultura e inteligencia son cosas distintas, la inteligencia es nata, la cultura adquirida, y una persona puede ser muy culta y poco inteligente, pues ahi demuestra que el aprovechamiento enriquecedor de la cultura ha dejado un pobre paso por el, pues sólo se ha limitado a la asimilación de datos y conceptos, que con el tiempo se olvidan. Para mi, la cultura ha de forjarte en valores, sino es tiempo perdido.
Emocionalidad. Las emociones van ligadas al nivel cultural por lo general, desde el sentido en el cual nos ayuda a entenderlas y comprenderlas. Si la cultura no ayuda a moldear tus emociones, y estas se desbocan como un caballo salvaje ante cualquier incentivo, sera una persona culta pero no inteligente. He conocido a personas culturalmente de nivel excelente, y emocionalmente perdidas, fragiles como cristales.
Personas incompletas, que apostaban todo a un nivel cultural, olvidandose del factor que juegan las emociones en el desarrollo humano. Personas excesivamente cerebrales, condenadas a la soledad interior, y a un uso como instrumentos de los que tienen al lado. Pero personas que eligen esta forma de vivir, por lo que su tristeza y soledad, no ha de merecer ninguna pena a nadie, porque cada uno elige la forma de ser y actuar.
Exteriorización. Toda persona culta, con una vida emocional sana, lo exterioriza...¿como?, de muchas maneras y formas. la esencial es en su trato con los demás, la comunicación, el trato, la cercanía, y el calor humano.la empatía, y la conexión con los demás. La valoración del otro, frente a lo material. Porque este tipo de personas sabe que lo que mas importa en la vida, y lo único que te da la felicidad y te hace sentirte bien, es la mirada de la otra persona, el abrazo o una caricia.
He llegado a conocer a personas con pleno desarrollo en uno de los campos, pero con carencia en los otros, personas que presumían de una gran cultura, pero con una inestabilidad emocional enorme, lo cual hacia imposible, -por mucho que lo desearan-, el poder llegar a una union plena y satisfactoria con el interior de la otra persona, personas sin haber llegado nunca a interiorizar en ellas para ver sus defectos y virtudes en profundidad. Personas con un ego inflado hasta tal limite que se creian soles en un sistema planetario donde el resto de gente tenia que orbitar a su alrededor.
Personas con la incapacidad total para poder llevar un relacion o matrimonio, aunque inconscientemente lo desearan, pero incapaces de poder realizarlo, porque la cantidad de defectos e inseguridades que tienen por dentro sin limpiar y tratar salen demasiado rapido al exterior, haciendo que la otra persona huya de su lado. La construcción de la arquitectura emocional es tan importante como lo puede ser la propia cultura. La comprensión de la persona con la que estas, su entendimiento, y el poder expresarlo en libertad todos sus deseos y pensamientos, sin temer un rechazo por la otra parte, es la base esencial.
Por lo general, toda persona con una arquitectura emocional inestable, dispara su imaginación muy rápidamente, se deja envolver por sueños que estan fuera de su alcance, viven en ellos....pero a la hora de realizarlos en la práctica, se encuentran con la realidad, y la realidad es que no están suficientemente preparados para hacerlos, planes y proyectos comunes con alguien, por la sencilla razón que en esos sueños, solo cuentan sus deseos, no los deseos y metas comunes de ambas personas.
Pienso que es triste, muy triste que mucha gente no cuide y entienda sus emociones, porque sinceramente...¿como una persona va a entender las emociones de quien tiene enfrente, si no entiende las suyas propias?, una persona podrá estar con otra, casarse, estar años juntos....pero si no hay una conexión emocional, esa persona estará sola interiormente, pues tan solo se habrá limitado a cumplir un rol social.
Es una pena....son vidas perdidas a mi entender. Obviamente, a lo largo de nuestra vida, conocemos mucha gente, pero tan solo una persona con la que se tiene una conexión emocional directa, si se pierde a esa persona.....se podría decir que seguramente no volveríamos a encontrar a nadie mas con quien emocionalmente conectemos, algunos o algunas se aproximarán, unos tendran cultura, y les faltara inteligencia emocional, otros serán ricos emocionalmente, pero con escasa cultura, otras personas lo exteriorizarán mejor, otras no......de ahí la importancia de cuidar estos tres factores.
La arquitectura emocional es vital en el desarrollo de la persona. Cuidarla, comprenderla y estar familiarizado con ella, es un punto esencial en nuestro desarrollo como persona, pues va íntimamente ligada a nuestro código de valores, simplemente, emociones sanas, dan valores sanos.
I have always thought that you should thrill it they are this big stranger, although we define them, we interpret and recognize, the truth is that we are always subject to them, and dominated by them, because the human being is in the fund a being purely emotionally, only the sick and insane minds have problems with it, immediately after which, the psychoanalysts' consultations of the whole world are full of patients with emotional problems in most of the cases.
Personally I have to say that along my life, I have met many persons' cases with emotional problems, not similar and recognized problems, persons and the people who says not to have anything that hits him in the eye, and nevertheless, they do not realize the majority, that to have a healthy and clean emotional life, is beneficial for the health and reverberates positively in the social life.
Everything is joined, because a person who does not have a healthy emotional life, does not have a few rich interpersonal relations either. A thing takes other one. You present yourself with fears, doubt, suspense, that they circulate along the life with a wall around his being protected they do not know well of that, perhaps of course of themselves.
Everything goes in a balance inside the person, since to understand I it would divide me in 3 interior levels, which go intimately close, which would be a culture, emocionalidad and exteriorización.
The culture. It is an important factor, since apart from opening new perspectives and visions to you, he helps you to form as it presents itself. A person recovers, can assimilate the culture in its life, and assimilate the culture, it is to do part of your form of life, and of your personal interest, but let's not make a mistake, culture and intelligence are different things, the intelligence is born, the acquired culture, and a person can be very refined and slightly intelligent, since there it demonstrates that the enriching use of the culture has opened a poor way for, since only it has limited itself to the assimilation of information and concepts, which with the time forget. For me, the culture has to forge you in values, but it is a lost time.
Emocionalidad. The emotions are tied to the cultural level in general, from the sense in which it helps us to understand them and to understand them. If the culture does not help to mold your emotions, and these run away like a wild horse before any incentive, she will be an educated but not intelligent person.
I have met persons culturally of excellent level, and emotionally lost, fragile like glazing, Personnel incomplete, that were betting everything on a cultural level, forgetting the factor that the emotions play in the human development. Excessively cerebral persons condemned to the interior solitude, and to a use as instruments of those that they have nearby. But persons who choose this way of living, therefore its sadness and solitude, it does not have to deserve any sorrow to anybody, because each one chooses the character and to act.
Exteriorización. Every educated person, with an emotional life. how?, of many ways and forms. the essential one is in its dealing with the others, the communication, the dealing, the closeness, and the heat humano.la empathy, and the connection with the others. The evaluation of other, opposite to the material thing. Because this type of persons knows that what more it imports in the life, and the only thing that gives you the happiness and makes you feel good, is the look of another person, the hug or a caress.
I have gone so far as to meet persons with full development in one of the fields, but with lack in others, persons who were presuming of a big culture, but with an enormous emotional instability, which was making the power impossible, - for much that were wishing it - to come to a full and satisfactory union with the interior of another person, persons without never having gone so far as to internalize in them to see its defects and virtues in depth.
You present yourself with an ego inflated up to such a limit that the suns believed in a planetary system where the rest of the people had to orbit around him.
You present yourself with the total disability to be able to take a relation or marriage, although unconsciously they were wishing it, but unable to be able to realize it, because the quantity of defects and insecurities that they have inside without cleaning and treating go out too rapidly on the outside, doing that another person flees of its side.
The construction of the emotional architecture is so important as it it can be the proper culture. The comprehension of the person with which you are, its understanding, and the power to express at large all its desires and thoughts, without being afraid of a rejection on another part, is the essential base.
In general, every person with an unstable emotional architecture, shoots its imagination very quickly, allows to be wrapped by sleep that are out of its scope, they live in them.... but at the time of realizing them in practice, they meet the reality, and the reality is that they are not sufficiently prepared to do them, plans and common projects with anybody, for the simple reason that in this sleep, only there count its desires, not the desires and common goals of both persons.
I think that is sad, very sad of that many people do not take care and understand its emotions, because sincerely...: how is a person going to understand the emotions of the one who has face, if it does not understand their own ones?, a person will be able to be with other one, to marry, to be together years.... but if there is no emotional connection, this person will be alone internally, so it will only have limited itself to fulfilling a social roll.
It is a sorrow.... there are lives lost to me to understand. Obviously, along our life, we know many people, but only a person with whom a direct emotional connection is had, if one loses this person..... it might be said that of course we would not find again anybody more to whom emotionally we tune in, some of them or someone will come closer, some will have culture, and they will lack emotional intelligence, others will be rich emotionally, but with scarce culture, other persons will express it better, others not...... hence the importance of taking care of these three factors.
The emotional architecture is vital in the development of the person. To take care of it, to understand it and to be acquainted with her, is an essential point in our development as it presents itself, since it is intimately tied to our values code, simply, healthy emotions, they give healthy values.
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