A menudo, cuando me paro a reflexionar la influencia de las experiencias negativas del pasado en la resolución y toma de aptitudes en cuestiones presentes, no deja de asombrarme lo influenciados que estamos todo el mundo por ellas. La experiencia nos hace sabios, nos evita caer en segundos tropezones, nos endurece y nos prepara posibles situaciones similares. Estamos a la defensiva, creemos que quien se acerca es para quitarnos algo, no para amarnos, para aprovecharse de una situación o circunstancia que le reporte un beneficio....un interes.
He de reconocer no obstante, que quiza a mi formación universitaria en una universidad Jesuita, quizá a los años de Seminario con la respectiva introspección psicológica y formativa en humanidades, me cuesta reconocer, aunque no lo puedo evitar ya para ser objetivo el gran importante peso de los intereses en las relaciones emocionales.
Es triste, porque indica claramente el predominio instintivo egocéntrico, sobre lo que debería ser la entrega mutua y desinteresada de ambas partes, aunque se que mucha gente dirá: "eres un soñador, eso no existe....", pero guste o no, esa es la auténtica esencia del amor, olvidar los intereses propios en detrimento de los comunes con la otra persona.
Nuestra sociedad moderna, ha cambiado por desgracia los habitos de amar, imponiendo unas condiciones creadas, o unos deseos personales como muestra de amor. La mayoría de la gente no sabe amar, porque tiene un concepto erroneo del arte de amar, de la constancia en ello, y tan solo va asociado a la cantidad de bienestar que una persona puede poner a la otra.
Eso no es amor, es "consecuencia del amor". Yo te amo, y por eso me preocupo que tu vida sea lo mas cómoda posible...", pero esas comodidades..son tan solo la consecuencia de las emociones que siento. Yo te amo, y por eso me olvido de mis sueños y deseos para intentar realizar los tuyos.
Hoy en dia, la gente olvida la esencia de amar, porque la forma mas valiosa de amar, no es tan solo poner una serie de comodidades al alcance de otra persona, sino tambien se ama mas puramente, dando lo que vale mas...tu tiempo, tu vida, tus sueños, tu dedicación.
Estos es la autentica forma de demostrar el amor, pues de poco vale poner comodidad a alguien si no le dedicas tu vida y tiempo. Por lo tanto para mi entender, esta es la forma esencial, siendo para mi la otra secundaria
Es triste ver como los habitos sociales, las costumbres modernas y la falta de autonomia personal, nos hace sumergirnos muchas veces en esa corriente. y desvirtuar claramente la autentica esencia del amor.
Often, when I stop to reflect on the influence of the negative experiences of the past in the resolution and capture of aptitudes in present questions, he does not stop amazing it to me influenced that we are the whole world for them. The experience makes us wise persons, avoids us to fall down in the second trips, hardens us and prepares possible similar situations for us. We are to the defensive, believe that who approaches is to take something from us, not to love us, to take advantage of a situation or circumstance that brings a benefit.... an interest.
I have to admit nevertheless, that perhaps to my university education in a university Jesuit, perhaps to the years of Seminar with the respective psychological and formative introspection in humanities education, it is difficult to me to recognize, although I cannot already avoid it to be objective the big important weight of the interests in the emotional relations.
It is sad, because it indicates clearly the self-centered instinctive predominance, on what it should be the delivery mutual and disinterested in both parts, although that many people will say: "you are a dreamer, that does not exist....", but please or not, this is the authentic extract of the love, to forget the self-interest to the detriment of the common ones with another person.
Our modern society, has changed unfortunately the habits of loving, imposing a few created conditions, or a few personal desires like love sample. Most of the people cannot love, because it has an erroneous concept of the art of loving, of the steadfastness in it, and only it is associated with the quantity of well-being that a person can put to other one.
This is not a love, it is "a consequence of the love". I love you, and that's why I worry that your life is more possible commode...", but this serviceability. is only the consequence of the emotions that I feel. I love you, and that's why I forget my sleep and desires to try to realize yours.
Nowadays, the people forget the extract of loving, because the most valuable way of loving, is not just to put a series of serviceability within reach of another person, but also loves itself more purely, giving what costs more... your time, your life, your sleep, your dedication. This is the authentic way of demonstrating the love, since of little it costs to put serviceability to someone if you do not dedicate your life and time. Therefore for me to understand, this is the essential form, being for me it would help other one
It is sad to see like the social habits, the modern customs and the absence of personal autonomy, it makes us submerge often in this current. and to spoil clearly the authentic extract of the love.
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